Control?

Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one who really gets it.  I'm the only one who understands why things need to go the way I've got them set up.  The way I do things is not out of my desire to control things.  In fact, I have no say in much of what goes on around here.  It is simply what needs to happen to make the boys comfortable so they can function.  DH tries....most of the time.  But from time to time, he still tries to exert pressure to make things the way HE thinks they should be, not necessarily the way they are.  Then all of us (mostly me) deal with the fallout from that for days, if not weeks.  Control is an illusion.  A bad day is a bad day, and a good day is a bad day waiting to happen.